Elijah is not a baby, he's 8. However, he's about as self sufficient as a baby. It's my fault and I admit it. I've keep him co-dependent so I feel needed, it's a sick and twisted world we mothers live in. But now it's very annoying. He can't do a lot of things he should be able to do....he just learned to ride a bike for the love of God. I compare he and JC a lot (not to their face, obviously) and there are so many things that JC could do at this age that Eli can not do. It's interesting how different our kids are when they grow up in the same house, same parents, same situations.....
Last night he wanted to sleep in our room so I told him he had to make his bed on the floor by himself if he was going to stay. So he made his bed....wanted another blanket but I wouldn't get it, so he didn't get one. Then lights out and 10 minutes later he starts crying. I ask him what's wrong and he says that it's not comfortable because I wouldn't get him another blanket and he is 'squished' between the bed and the dresser......my words "um, move then dipstick, solve the problem don't just lay there and cry about it"....he had to go to his own room then because I was so mad that he was lacking so much self sufficiency that it was irritating. Eli is very intelligent but is not very street smart. I've created a baby !!!! So I am now making him do more things for himself, I pledge, I promise. This morning I made him fix his breakfast by himself and other than me having to take the scalding hot bowl out of the microwave he did it all by himself.....and got his own drink : ) Whew, so hard.I think it's funny how the 'need' to be needed rules our lives as mothers and as humans I guess. We all love to be loved : )
I will never give up the bedtime song, no matter how old or independent. Their wives will have to pull me out of their bedroom by my hair, first. Just try me, future ladies.
Is your youngest as co-dependent as mine?
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