I know there are a lot of books on this topic. There are a lot of suggestions by 'professionals'. Do they have any solutions that are easy?
My boys hold open the door for ladies, they are complimentary, loving, caring, funny and smart. They will one day be wonderful husbands. They love women. My husband and I have taught them that. I am proud of that. Boys need to know how to treat women. Women are to be treasured and loved. It's never ok to hit, cuss or belittle women/girls. Chivalry is NOT dead and it is NOT insulting to the female gender!!! If you think so, please never speak to me again. Ok, sorry that's a little harsh. I think raising boys into men is easy. Just raise them how you want to be treated. But raising girls.....oh hell. I hear it sucks.
In my family, we have 8 grandchildren. Seven boys and one girl, Lilya. My niece Lilya. As most of you know, my sister died about 4 months after Lilya was born. She had pancreatic cancer that was not diagnosed until after Lilya was born. The cancer had spread fast and in the blink of an eye, Wendy was gone. She was 37. Anyway....the both of us had always wanted a girl. We wanted to raise a girl that was confident, proud, smart, strong and independent. These are all qualities young girls should have because they become women and women need these to get through life. So when she found out it was a girl...OMG our dreams had come true!!!! I was so excited to be so close to this mother daughter relationship that I would never have (but, top notch auntie is good enough for me). Wendy was going to raise this baby girl to be a great woman. Unfortunately she just gets to watch from heaven now. Lil is in good hands. She has a new mom that is just as confident and smart, proud and independent as Wendy was and will be a great example for her. For that, I am grateful. But mothers, please teach your daughters to love themselves. Love and respect their bodies, their mind, their heart. It's good to be a woman. It's great to be a mother. God is good.
It sucks. I feel like one against the masses. I fight tv movies magazines the internet the stores the ads the boys the other parents and I fight THEM! Modesty is non existent in this world and an old fashioned idea. Twilight has taken over for the idea of a "normal" relationship...I can't be with you...I am bad for you...(but we can mess around if you want" I am an ISLAND trying my best to bring up not ONE but FIVE girls into this world who WILL cover their boobs and will not have their ass hanging out the bottom of their shorts. Who will understand that their beauty and worth comes from the mere fact that they are breathing. And who will eventually understand that a boys brain only moves out of his penis at around 25 and at that point they can worry about them. Seriously..this was the tip of the iceberg..don't get me started.. HA
ReplyDeleteI have two girls and one boy. They are so unique in each of their own ways! My son BETTER follow in the footsteps of his father because he has chivalry down! He still opens my door at times. I have ALWAYS hated reasoning of "an insult to women if you don't let women do it themselves" mindset! It doesn't matter if it is a woman or a man, be kind and caring! What makes it even better, is that our two girls have the role model of HOW a man should treat a woman...that way, they know what they should expect from a friend, boyfriend, or husband in the future...and if those men don't meet that standard...well, we'll pray for them because both of my girls are very strong and independent and will TAKE THEM DOWN! And they won't need a man's help to do it ;)
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